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I am 20 years old and have been dating my fiance, Chris 34 a C6-C7 incomplete quadriplegic for almost a year now. Chris has no feeling from the chest down, complete use of his arms and discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men use of his hands he can write, type, push his manual chair and even drive so he does very well for himself. Chris has been in the police force for 10 years now and before he started his career in law enforcement he was an Army Ranger.
Chris was shot in the neck while on duty in serving involuntary commitment papers to remove a 60 year old woman from her home. It was love at first sight! He has always been in good spirits.
He has accepted himself and his new life style. Which I admire so much. Lately our relationship is not what it used to be. I am his primary caregiver, we have attendant care 4 nights a week for 3 hours, the rest is left up to me. He always has to outdo me with his problems. Every day I find it harder and harder to take care of him. I am wearing myself out. Worst of all, discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men, he is a very cold hearted person with a very dry sense of humor.
But I do admire him so much for what he has overcome in his life. Before his accident he was an athletic person, he ran every day, a semi-pro cyclist, he loved to hike and camp. He still lives a very active lifestyle, which wears me out tremendously.
In the beginning everybody was against us. Especially my older brother who was his SWAT Team partner and was by his side the night he was shot. I love him very much and my family has just not gotten to where they accept our relationship. I left home to move in with Chris, I gave up everything that I worked so hard for.
I quit my job, dropped out of school, and gave up my car for a Volvo so he could transfer easily and the wheelchair fits in the back. So therefore I have nothing of my own discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men. I did it out of love for him.
He was the best thing that ever happened to me, and I wanted to be with him more than anything despite my family turning against me. We have our good days and bad days as any relationship does, discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men.
I gave up a lot to be with Chris because I love him so much. Adjusting to a quadriplegia lifestyle has been really hard for me. I pretty much take care of everything else on my own the laundry, cooking, cleaning, taking care of his service dog, making sure he has his meds every week, taking him to work, picking him up from work, taking him wherever he needs and wants to go.
He is not the same person that I feel in love with. He has become very demanding and says hurtful things. When I try to talk to him about it he just says it has to be done.
But what is wrong with wanting a clean house? He just expects me to do everything and I never get the respect or appreciation that I think I deserve. He never offers to help me and I am getting very tired and sad. But I want more for me, I want to be successful and have a career.
I want a family one day and I know that I could never have children and take care of him. He is getting a vehicle that is modified for him to drive soon.
I am hoping that it will help our relationship and take some stress of me. I have explained my feelings and thoughts to him as we are very open with each other. We have never had a problem expressing our feelings.
After I tell him how I feel, he just says sorry. I have thought about hiring weekend, night time help for the bowel program and showering, but he says that the weekend is our time for just us.
I do the morning routine; I get him up every morning and drive him 30 minutes to work then drive 30 minutes back home. He says, what is the point on hiring a morning time aide, because when he gets his truck the morning routine will just consist of getting him up and dressed.
But he has been saying the truck will be here in a couple of weeks… for about 3 months now. I guess I am asking for your advice as wheelchair users other quadriplegics and their lovers or partners. Am I being selfish? Since I had an idea of what I was getting into? I never knew that it would be this hard. He is very inconsiderate of my feelings and is very selfish. It is always about him, but what about me? Am I the selfish one? If I have I certainly did not intend to.
I hope that you can help me and give me some insight. I met my boyfriend in October of He was a star athlete prior to his accident back inand I feel like he missed out on some much-needed therapy to deal with what he lost. And he likes to feel sorry for himself and try to reel me in to his pity party. I really think he should get some help to deal with emotions, but God forbid I should make that recommendation.
I am a wife a quad. he had his injury nine months after we were married and have been together ever since. He just had bladder and prostate removal surgery. My husband and I have been together for fourteen years and married for ten. I use a scooter for long distances, work and shopping. I have BSN in nursing and am a twenty-two year Registered Nurse, discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men.
In fact, I got hurt, in the auto accident, by falling asleep at the wheel after being forced into a third back-to-back -to-back sixteen hour double shift.
I cringe and become nauseated at the thought that I could have hurt or killed another human being. I have a great deal of mobility on my L side, but no sensation, with very little mobility on my R side and enough sensation to test the temperature of my bath water to a reasonable degree of certainty. I have uncontrollable nerve pain with high tone and spasticity in my extremities. For the first two years following my accident, when I was not in rehab, I spent my time being angry, feeling sorry for myself and doing my level best to drive my husband as far away from me, as I could.
He was working his regular full time 10 hour a night job at least five, and more often then not, six days a week, discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men. Then, he was coming home, taking me back and forth to PT and OT, keeping up with ALL of the household chores, waiting on me hand and foot and with his spare two or three minutes, trying to catch a nap, just so he could hit the rat race, again. The FINAL straw for us comd one evening when I was whining about him no longer being attracted to me and our lack of intimacy.
Boy, oh boy, did he ever let me have it with both barrels open, discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men. It was my wake-up discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men to just about loosing the love of my life. As he clearly let me know, his total lack of intetest in me sexually, or really otherwise as a female, had absolutely nothing to do with my physical limitations or awkwardness of my being a quadriplegic, but rather it was the terrible personality change I had allowed the injury to discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men in me.
As he was further explaining how his love for me had never diminished by his assisting me with a TRUE need, or did he ever tire of doing so, all that kept reverberating in my head was those two horrible words; unmotivated and self-loathing.
It was in that moment I realized not only did I have a spinal cord injury, but a spinal cord injury had me!! I had allowed this appalling thing to steal my soul, and now I was just about to loose the one person discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men had loved me unconditionally.
It was then and there I made the decision that this thing would no longer own me. Soon, I found myself standing and then walking some with the help of my assistve devices. What a high that was!! Before long my therapist was suggesting I try out a whole new set of wheels by learning to drive again. With a couple of modifications and some adaptive equipment, I was soon off to the DMV to obtain my new found freedom.
Being able to drive again has opened so many doors for me. Although I no longer can be a floor nurse, working neuro surgery like I did prior to the accident, I still have a rewarding job as a MDS Coordinator, by ensuring the geratric residents at our facility get the very best medical care possible.
I try now to always accept any assistance with grace and thankfulness. I make a conscious effort of not allowing my husband to be involved with such things as my bowel program, or management of my spastic bladder. Although, there are times accidents occur. We try to laugh about them and move on. Once we get to our destination, he knows to allow me the time and privacy to freshen up and change back to regular under clothes that make me feel more feminine.
I can now say there is life again after a SCI. There can be a fulfilling life, and so much of that depends on our attitude. There are still days that my nerve pain and spasms drive me under the covers to hibernate. But, as the old saying goes, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
If I could give any advice to a new SCI person, it would simply be to be patient with yourself as you learn to accept this new life, and remember those around you, whether they be your caregivers, family, friends or a combination of both, they too are learning just like you, discussion group for women dating quadriplegic men.
They often get just exhausted as you, and when you see their coping mechanisms are running low, look for orther resources to meet your needs. And no matter how lousy you feel NEVER take it out on a well meaning person who is doing their best and most of all learn to say thank you and mean it. Gratitude goes a long way in expressing your appreciation.
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The longer term goals of the WAGS of SCI are to eventually to start a non profit foundation catering to spreading awareness of the mental, emotional and physical needs of women in inter-abled relationships, as well as raising money to send deserving couples on romantic trips they otherwise couldn't afford.
My husband boyfriend at the time Evan was injured in a work accident when a load of unsecured flooring fell on his head, breaking his neck at the C4 level in Since then I have been devoted full time to his care, as well as helping to find a new normal for us as a couple.
After his injury we decided that nothing would hold us back, and decided to get married abroad in Italy in We have continued to travel the world whenever we can, and refuse to let our limitations hold us back. I am the marketing voice behind WAGS of SCI and enjoy technology and design.
My boyfriend Dan was injured on our first out of country, tropical vacation to Cayo Santa Maria, Cuba on January 2, He dove into the shallow end of pool and broke his C5 and became a quadriplegic on the spot. Dan had surgery in Cuba before being air lifted home. Dan and I packed up our entire lives, sold his home and moved to Vancouver B.
Dan and I are very involved in our community and have have found our place in Vancouver. These women have been chosen by the WAGS of SCI founders to be WAGS of SCI Ambassadors in various cities because of their love for spreading awareness and sisterhood in all that they do.
These women are passionate about helping others, and donate their time to this cause. They provide outreach and support to new WAGS of SCI in their areas and lead events and meet-ups in their cities. They are the main point of contact for their areas, and are looking forward to connecting with you!
Hi my name is Sarah! My husband and I have been married fro 3. Ryan sustained his Spinal Cord Injury just over 3 years ago. I know how scary and lonely the aftermath of SCI can be. I could not have imagined our life looking like it does now, then. I hope I can help some other WAGS of SCI know that they will be ok and that they are not alone! My name is Cameron! My husband Trey and I have been married for 2 years, together for 10!
Trey sustained a C5 and T5 SCI in January , leaving him paralyzed from the chest down. Although our lives are different now, we have found that with a little support and a positive attitude, we can overcome just about anything that is thrown our way. I am hoping to be that support for other WAGS of SCI and empower them to roll on! Kaleb and I met when I was just 17 on a mission trip in San Diego, and over the next four years tried an on again off again long distance relationship.
In October of I decided it was time to be all in and move to New Orleans, where Kaleb was stationed with the United States coast guard. I never made the move Kaleb suffered a diving accident on November 10th, leaving him paralyzed. From that moment on we have been pretty much attached at the hip, living this quad life to the fullest! We have struggled a lot, he has fallen out of his chair a lot, but most of all we have laughed a lot!
Hi, my name is Jeannette! My husband, Apkar, and I got married under a year ago and have been together for 6 years. Apkar sustained a spinal cord injury at the C5-C6 level over 2. Though the road to recovery was tough and isolating in the beginning, we have been blessed with amazing support systems to uplift and push us through, including WAGS of SCI.
I am excited to connect with more women because I know we are stronger together! My name is Catie Hargrave and I met my husband, Hal, three years after a car accident left him a quadriplegic. He is a C injured in at the age of We met in college at the University of La Verne, outside of Los Angeles, in and became best friends for 5 years before we started dating. We got married in September and are navigating the every day challenges of SCI life and I can not wait to connect with other ladies in our situation!
Jon and I met a year and a half ago after his accident. We now live together with our pup Jynx! I am super excited to meet and connect with other women going through similar experiences! Kiel and I met a little over 5 years ago now, and have been on cloud 9 ever since. When we first began dating, I have to admit I learned many things that go along with someone who has sustained a spinal cord injury. Kiel broke his neck at the age of 14 while playing football, and became a C5 quadriplegic.
Our relationship has taught me many lessons, educated me and brought more awareness to my outlook on individuals with disabilities. I feel so blessed and can not wait for our newest adventure in marriage for the fall of ! With live in a Boston suburb with our daughter- our greatest joy! I met Dave 6 years after his T4 complete spinal cord injury from a motorcycle accident. I was drawn to his strength, resilience, and tenacity.
Dave has always been very involved with the SCI community and one of the things I admire most about him is his dedication to helping newly injured people through peer mentoring. Hi, I'm Inge, I live in South Africa with my fiancé, who is a C5 quadriplegic. We met and started dating for 3 months when he had his diving accident, almost 3 years ago.
I'm a very happy and positive person, who loves to see the humor in everything, but the first 2 years was tough. I don't know what my emotional state would have been if I had not been part of THIS community. My wish is for no WAG to ever feel alone going through this SCI journey. I want to try my best to reach every "old" and new WaG in South Africa to help keep building this amazing community of supporting superwomen. I live in South Jersey at the beach with my husband Teudy and our 2 boys.
Teudy is a C6 quadriplegic from a freak accident in the ocean in August At the time of his accident, I was 3 weeks away from giving birth to our youngest son so our lives were flipped in many ways. Charlie was born about 4 weeks later while Teudy worked hard in rehab. This injury has took us through many lows, but also made us such a stronger family and as individuals. I absolutely love connecting with other WAGS of SCI and being a part of this incredible sisterhood!
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